"Why are you crying Mommy! Come, I will give you a
hug." Saying so within no second he
gave me a warm bear hug with his little hands around my neck. That was my four
year old kid just few days back.
I was completely down as I had lost my much-loved uncle and
was feeling low, hollow and helpless.
While we try to teach our children all about life, Our
children teach us what life is all about.
The warmth of love
was so pure that I wanted my inner child to take birth within me again. I
wanted to re-live as a child who just is as innocent and as playful one can
think off. I wanted to be a kid again for whom worldly affairs is far off and
can see only people it relates to. Energy, creativity, innocence and chastity
is so virtuous that it's an ultimatum of being alive.
Call it as ‘divine child', ‘wonder child', ‘inner child', or
‘true self' or ‘real self', its just
that how do we confront a child within all of us.
Undeniably we carry a
child within ourselves. This inner child is created by parents, society, and
all people who are involved during this augmentation of childhood.
If the child is not
heard and accepted, it establishes to create an inter-reliant false self which
generates emotional traumas and always feels like victims eventually leading to
emptiness, disturbance, zero self confidence with bundle of apprehensions at
all stages. On the contrary, the child with attention and acknowledgement
builds the fortune for oneself and people around.
But, no one really knows how many people have been loved and
guided in healthy ways. So this is one of the most important concepts for us to
understand: we all have an inner child, and we have many more inner children
inside of us as well. Most people are aware of some of their inner children.
The process of opening to the world of the Inner Child enhances our choices in
miraculous ways. There are dozens of ways to connect to this wonder kid within
which heals, loves and feels happy. In my case, a thousand words might have got
communicated which was replaced by a warm hug. That's why a picture dominates a
kid's world rather than words. During the transition from childhood the
"Wise-kid" becomes dominant with left brain as chief ascendant and
keeps beating the inner child to emerge. Adult and Parent of what we address in
TA (Transactional Analysis) transpires. This is where often the internal battle
begins.
But, a profound
thought would be to nurture the inner child with love rather than muffling and
secluding it. It heals, it relaxes after all we need some balance out of life
and re-living childhood-ness in adulthood is an experience with difference. Its
never too late to begin anything.
The wonder kid within
has the following faces and all of us live few moments within this nutshell to
confront the inner child.
The frisky child is
the child which loves to play. It is a frolicsome kid with full of vivacity and
exuberance. The energy store house is never empty. There is a spark from within
which twinkles with enthusiasm.
The stubborn child
which wants what it wants. No compromises. You cannot expect any deal to strike
with concession.
The mischievous child is naughty, It is certainly not
negative to hurt & harm because adulthood would become alert with super ego
to judge.
The fearful child
feels scared and in-secured. Some times behaves awful with anxiety. All of us
go through this phase one or the other time.
The desolated child
strongly feels isolated. Feels comfortable either alone or with selected few based
on situations. Not surprisingly, there are circumstances that this feeling of
segregation might get extended. But, its alarming if this remoteness continues
more than a month.
The inquisitive child
– There are no seven wonders of the world in the eyes of this child. There are seven million. Curious,
interesting, and enquiring seems like an unquenched thirst for this inquisitive
child.
This is just an
insight towards the possibilities of a child within. There are many other
selves as well. In reality all children are imaginative, innovative and
artistic, the challenge is to remain one as one grows up.
Its an experience
with difference to develop the ability to identify the child within and nourish
with adequate attention and admiration to give oneself a profound healing
experience.
This is one of the thoughts I always remember when a child
within me awakes.
Bitter are the tears of a child: Sweeten them.
Deep are the thoughts
of a child: Quiet them.
Intense is the grief
of a child: Soothe it.
Soft is the heart of
a child: Do not harden it.
Author : Pratima Jagadeesh
She is a HR Professional and works in a MNC at Bangalore.
Her topics of interest are psychology and metaphysics. She is also involved
with Counselling and works for few NGO's.
